While narcissism is typically characterised by a number of interpersonal and emotional struggles, the sex lives of many narcissists are even more bewildering. Knowing these behaviours can make you stick your head into quite a few crucial moves in dealing with people who have this narcissistic personality disorder, or also will just more inform you on that complicated character of them. We’ll explore some of the weird things narcissists do sexually.
1. Love Bombing
Primary Narcissistic Supply One of the oddest but also most frequent behaviour in narcissists on entering a new relationship is Love Bombing. Swept off your feet: This is the term for that flood of attention and love narcissists typically smother their lovers with in the beginning. The smallest pieces may make you feel trying, a perfect match. But, this love it feels could be nothing more than a manipulation technique to make you dependent as quickly as possible.
2. Performance Over Connection
Narcissists tend to fucks, then eat while normal ass people like fucks with breakfast. Sex, for them, is not just a physical activity but it’s an act that puts their self-esteem into practice and sedates the image they have created in their own imagination. Instead, this hyperfocus on performance tends to manifest itself in all sorts of weird ways during sex—like the grandstanding one performs that will theoretically wow their partner. Yet this attention to sexual performance can leave little space for authentic emotional connection, significantly reducing the experience’s fullness and satisfaction for both sides.
3. Sexual Manipulation
It will go into effect in their sexual relations, for the same reason that narcissists tend to be manipulative about other things. They can and do use sex as a weapon of power or tool to hurt others. These manipulative tactics can lead to feelings of confusion and resentment in the partner, further complicating the relationship.
4. Gaslighting During Intimacy
Though it is powerful gaslighting to be surrounded or infiltrated on the level at which we think and speak, one need only look into a narcissist’s eyes as they try this for the first time—the very moment an otherwise good sexual dynamic becomes toxic. When in bed, a narcissist might spin things around and make you feel like your desires or preferences are wrong. They may diminish what their partner feels about a particular sex act or say that they are too sensitive. It can make the environment filled with doubt and realisation that in turn compels a disassociation from sexual intimacy.
5. Obsessive Fantasising
A narcissist is self-absorbed and in constant reverie, where his fantasy about himself (the mirror image suffused with grandiose ambitions of greatness etc.) akin to the high school jock football hero.. Narcissists obsess fantasising not only immediate sex acts they want to perform but a Potteresque future made all by magic.. This fixation can lead to unrealistic hopes with respect to their sex life and accomplices. They will fantasise about participating in or even orchestrating threesomes, orgies and other adventurous levels of sex where they are the main character.
6. Jealousy and Possessiveness
Jealousy is a common behaviour among narcissistic people and it can raise its head even more pointedly in sexual relationships. Extreme forms of possessiveness, going so far as to see their partner more like an object than a vertebrate person. It leads to weird behaviours like stalking your partner on social media or getting irrationally angry about them having a platonic friend. This jealousy often comes from a place of needing control in their life and insecurity, which starts breeding toxic dynamics.
7. Flirting with Others to Evoke Reaction
Similarly, narcissists may flirt with others to incite jealousy in their partners. They do this to subtly reassert their hierarchy and that they are still above you. They intentionally flirt with other people in front of their spouse, so that they can watch how much control a partner has.
Conclusion
It can shed some light on their mysterious ways, and it unlocks a window to the mind of narcissists. Ranging from love bombing, manipulation or obsessive validation these behaviours can cause a sexual dynamic that is clouded and repealed. Understanding these patterns is the first step to protect yourself and make better boundaries. If you are in a relationship with someone who has these qualities, do not forget to get support from friends or family members and /or mental health professionals for help on how one can cope better. For more information, visit Narcissists Life to learn about these behaviours and how to cope effectively.
